Are you pining for the perfect man? If you’re a Virgo, or if you have Venus in Pisces or Venus aspected by Neptune, chances are you’ve invested years dreaming of some kind of idealized love. You may pine for an ex. You may pine for someone you’ve yet to meet. You may pine for someone who is unavailable to you but what you won’t do is come to terms with reality!
I have Venus square Neptune, myself. So I know this movie. And movies… tv, Neptune-ruled film, is one way to cure it.
I had this idea while working with a long-term client who is in a long-term relationship with a man who loves her. She loves him too, those he’s always, always, always falling short. She knows about this Neptune deal but she’s just not been able to get beyond it. The last time we talked, I assigned her some homework. Watch TV!
See, the media feeds this kind of thing. They portray these perfect, gorgeous men, coupled with some quirky gal for whom he will do ANYTHING. Once you spot it, you’ll see what I mean.
The Ghost Whisperer show was a great example. The gal runs around making everything right in both life and the afterlife, while she runs a business and is an exceptionally good friend + kind person and lovely.
She often wears evening gowns to chase demons around, or various whores with hearts of gold.
If not that, it’s slim fitting slacks with lots and lots and lots of cleavage and perfect makeup. Her house is immaculate and she never breaks a nail or a sweat or farts or anything.
Her man is even more wonderful. No! He doesn’t mind if he has to cook, clean and understand when she gets up at two am with an important ghost to deal with. He’s happy to do the dishes and when he’s not cleaning up or being second banana to the wonderfully gifted Ghost Whisperer, he’s out saving lives.
This man is never tired. No fatigue, okay? If she wants him to touch her, he complies; touching her where and how she prefers for the right amount of time. Why? Because he’s perfect.
Now I shouldn’t have to spell it out but men are not like this. Either are women!
“A Gifted Man” is another example. He’s a rock star surgeon who can maintain his high end state-of-the-art practice, while spending most of his time working ate the free clinic, helping the indigent. In my favorite episode, he comes across a rollover crash on his way to some formal-something. He’s impeccably dressed, complete with a pristine white scarf, which stays that way, in spite of his crawling around on pavement saving the lives of bleeding people!
Now I’m telling you, these portrayals of men are all over the place and decades of watching this stuff does affect a person. Who wouldn’t want to chase ghosts all day, have plenty of money, a man who adores them and gourmet food, perfectly prepared without going to the grocery store? And no dirty clothes in your life, ever!
I think there’s enough here to consider. If you are pining for someone, ask yourself if your dream of them is even remotely connected to even a shred of reality.
Since I know the client well, when she followed up to tell me that her partner said something hurtful (which they both do, on a routine basis), I sent her this:
You have to admit it’s funny. I mean, there you go! But seriously. If you have this problem, try scrutinizing what you’re watching.
My husband and see this stuff and mock it to high heaven! “Mcdreamy”… right. I think he got fired for being a jerk, no?
Virgo rising; you’re in this too. And Venus in the 12th house or Neptune in the 7th, or on an angle for that matter.
Got Venus Neptune? Tell us about your pining. Have tv, movies or music helped or hindered you?