Hi, Elsa
I feel energy and chemistry in relationships, very strongly. It’s either there or it’s not. However, what baffles me is if you feel completely at ease with someone, romantically, and the energy is fantastic coming and going both ways. The other person acknowledges the strong connection… and then the other person decides to walk away without much of an explanation. Baffles me and sidelines every time it happens – it has happened twice in the last month.
Virgo Sun/Aquarius rising/Aquarius moon
Canada
Hi, Virgo.
This must be frustrating but there are a number of reason it happens. You’re flummoxed because you are expecting the person you’re involved with to react to stimuli or some experience or scenario, in the same way you would.
In reality, the odds this would happen are virtually nil. This is because people are individuals who feel independently, want or don’t want certain thing. They also weigh and measure things using their own systems.
“Strong chemistry” means one thing to you. Chances are, you don’t really know what. Does it mean you should marry? Head in that direction? Have sex?
“Strong chemistry” to another person may not be what they’re looking for. Seriously! People are odd and they have their own filters.
You should also consider age. What a person is looking for when they are twenty tends to change when they are thirty or forty or fifty. Also, if a person has had a couple of divorces, they probably don’t want to have a third; chemistry is barely a factor!
As for the lack of explanation when ending a relationship, this is usually done to either spare a person’s feelings or to avoid a fight or conflict. Let’s look from the other person’s perspective.
Let’s say I want to break up with you. Yes, there is chemistry, but you drain me. If I explain this to you, or try to, you’re likely to be hurt and you can’t “fix” it. Maybe I don’t want to go through the drama.
People are often blind to their faults. They also tend to deny reality, particularly nowadays. If you want someone to explain why they are leaving a relationship, it’s up to you to make it “okay” for them to tell you. Otherwise, why would they?
I’m sorry this has happened to you, twice. There may be something you’re missing. Maybe you can look for that thing.
Good luck.
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