How Do You Handle A Break-Up?

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burning bridgeMy husband and I met as teenagers. We had a fiery, passionate relationship. Unfortunately we broke up rather than marry.  We’re both stubborn hotheads!

We broke up, but neither of us acted against the other.  We didn’t try to cause hurt or damage the other person’s relationship.  We maintained some decorum!

The way of being was drilled into our generation. We were taught not to burn my bridges!

I don’t think people consider this anymore. I guess it’s part of the moving around people do these days, combined with the internet culture. People throw other people away or how I like to say it – they sell people, way too cheap!

My husband and I got back together, more than twenty year later. This would have never happened if we’d acted differently when we were young. If you don’t kill love it just may live again. At least there is a chance.

It’s uncanny to me, people who don’t know how to leave without bloodying the other person’s nose. It’s an important skill, because people frequently do want to reconnect once time has passed. If you blow you chance to do this, the resulting pain can last for the rest of your life.

For me, this is a Venus Neptune thing. I just don’t want to hurt someone I have loved. Actually, I don’t want to hurt anyone, period.

I also have Uranus in the 7th. While I do feel I’ve the right to leave, I do not have the right to slap, stab, maim and cripple!

Here’s a video about the impact of leaving a trail of bodies in your wake…

Does Treating Your Partner Lousy In One Relationship Affect The Next?

I’ll tell you what’s really bad.  It’s when a person who’s been in a relationship with you, looks back. The breakup was so horrific, they wish they’d have never met you.

What do you think about this? Do you crush people on the way out the door? Am I changing anyone’s mind here?

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